Grief is a deeply personal and challenging experience that everyone faces at some point in life. When someone close to you is grieving, it can be difficult to know how to help. Here are some thoughtful ways to support a friend or loved one during their time of loss.
One of the most important things you can do is simply be there. Sometimes, your presence is more comforting than words. Listen without offering advice or trying to fix things. Let them express their feelings openly and without judgement.
Grief can make everyday tasks feel overwhelming. Offer to help with specific tasks such as cooking meals, running errands, or helping with household chores. This can relieve some of their stress and show that you care.
Avoid trying to minimise their loss or offering clichés like “They’re in a better place.” Acknowledge the pain they are feeling. Saying things like “I’m so sorry for your loss” or “I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you” can be more comforting.
Grieving is a long process, and support is often needed beyond the initial days or weeks after the loss. Regular check-ins, whether through a phone call, a text message, or a visit, can show your continued support and concern.
Talking about the deceased can be a crucial part of the healing process. Encourage them to share memories and stories if they feel comfortable. This can help them process their grief and keep the memory of their loved one alive.
Everyone grieves differently. Some might want to talk about their feelings, while others may prefer solitude. Respect their individual grieving process and be patient with their needs and emotions.
Grief can bring a wide range of emotions, from sadness and anger to confusion and guilt. Understand that these feelings are normal and give them the space to experience them. Avoid pushing them to “move on” or “get over it.”
Sometimes, offering a shoulder to cry on or a hug can provide immense comfort. Let them know that it’s okay to grieve and that you are there to support them emotionally.
If they seem overwhelmed by their grief or if it persists for an extended period, gently suggest they seek professional help. Grief counsellors, therapists, or support groups can offer specialised assistance and a safe space to express their feelings.
Anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays can be particularly tough for those who are grieving. Remember these dates and offer extra support during these times. A simple message or gesture can mean a lot.
Supporting someone who is grieving requires sensitivity, patience, and understanding. By being present, offering practical help, and acknowledging their pain, you can provide meaningful support during their time of loss. Remember, it’s the little things that often make the biggest difference.
If you or someone you know is struggling with grief and could benefit from professional support, consider reaching out to a grief counsellor or joining a support group. At Upside Of Grief, we offer coaching programmes that include emotional support and strategies to cope with loss. Take a look through our services to see how we can help
